Something inspirational:

Have you ever got to that stage in your life, where you want to say something to someone you have had a disagreement with, but you either can't find the right words, or you've not had the opportunity? If that’s a problem for you, write an open letter instead to the person you feel upset, or annoyed with. Everything you want to say is put into the letter, but is never sent.

Why write a letter?

Writing allows you to rationalise your thoughts so that you can find a place that allows you to understand the actions of a close friend or relative, without holding a grudge. As you write and you read your thoughts on paper, you should slowly let go of any pent-up emotions that have caused you to feel angry or annoyed.

The letter is usually burned, but if you feel you want to keep the letter, it can be filed too.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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10 comments on “Write a letter”

  1. Funny that you mention letter writing as a way to vent frustrations and anger. The first time I heard of this was from my English professor a few years ago. It has worked for me as well.

  2. Great idea Ilana. I have done this before and believe it's time to write another now, but I prefer to burn mine so not to dig-up the past further along my journey.

    I have never heard it called an open letter before, so it proves that we are always learning something new every day. Thank you.

  3. If I had a quarter for every letter or journal I have written to clear my mind, I would be a wealthy man but instead they make me a healthy man and that's just fine with me.

    I plan to continue writing as long as my hands will allow and my spirit needs mending. Good post.

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