Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
Food for thought: "I never write to disappear and escape. The truth is exactly the opposite. Most people strike me as escaping and disappearing in one way or another - into their jobs, their daily routines, their delusions about ...
Something inspirational: “Anyone can learn to fight. Hardly anyone learns to think.” TAMSYN MUIR, Gideon the Ninth Muir's quote reminds us that fighting is not just about physical strength; it can mean arguing, resisting ...
Food for thought: “All that you touch You Change. All that you Change Changes you.” OCTAVIA E. BUTLER, Parable of the Sower This quote reminds us that everything we do has an impact, and every experience changes ...
I have learned the only one I can change is myself. I have wasted most of my life trying to change other people, when the reality is they will only change if they really want to.
It's beyond frustrating when you want to help someone and they refuse to do the right thing, even when it would save their own lives, as the current pandemic shows.
I find it hard to focus on myself seeing as I was brainwashed into being a 'people pleaser' and 'caretaker' for everyone else. It would be nice to be able to enjoy living my own life and not feel quite so guilty about it.
Thanks Randy. Yes, you can live your own life and you don't have to feel so guilty, you don't have to care as much, it depends on who you're caring for and whether they care for you.
Not caring so much doesn't mean you don't care about others, but it means you care about yourself and make time for you. Any people pleaser will tell you they will also find it hard, but sometimes for our sanity we must care less.
I have learned the only one I can change is myself. I have wasted most of my life trying to change other people, when the reality is they will only change if they really want to.
It's beyond frustrating when you want to help someone and they refuse to do the right thing, even when it would save their own lives, as the current pandemic shows.
I find it hard to focus on myself seeing as I was brainwashed into being a 'people pleaser' and 'caretaker' for everyone else. It would be nice to be able to enjoy living my own life and not feel quite so guilty about it.
Thanks Randy. Yes, you can live your own life and you don't have to feel so guilty, you don't have to care as much, it depends on who you're caring for and whether they care for you.
Not caring so much doesn't mean you don't care about others, but it means you care about yourself and make time for you. Any people pleaser will tell you they will also find it hard, but sometimes for our sanity we must care less.