Something inspirational: “Friendship isn’t something you learn in school, but if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship you haven’t really learned anything.” MOHAMMED ALI
Something inspirational:
“Friendship isn’t something you learn in school, but if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship you haven’t really learned anything.”
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That's lovely Lisa. Unfortunately though, some of us are not always aware what the true meaning of friendship is until our friendships are put to the test.
I learned a lot about my friends when my mum was terminally ill, but it's often in those times when things don't work out with our friends that we understand the true meaning of friendship.
Which just goes to show that you really don't much about what is important 'life' in school.
Certainly here in the UK schooling simply seems to be about bagging exams to make the school look good in the league tables and pastoral care is very much secondary to that. It's a shame they don't seem able to find time for the inclination for both.
Yes having been through the system myself I know exactly how schools in the UK work, but school should be about both and I agree with you.
Although exams are important we have to be able to get on with others and to do that we have to be able to communicate. To put too much importance on exams and not enough importance on pastoral care matters, mean we will always struggle in one way or another.
There needs to be some kind of balance, so we become more balanced individuals. I'm not sure how much of that is happening right now.
This is such a true quote. Really all we have in life are our families and our friends. A true friend is one who is there for you in good times and bad.
If they aren't there for you in bad times, then they really aren't as good friends as you thought.
It took a long time for me to learn about friendship and what it really means!
The longest friendship I've had is with the guy who I went for coffee with this morning. We've known each other a good 20 years now and that's only because we met in AA.
My parents never really had friends so they didn't exactly provide good role models for what we needed to know. We learned that people are only useful for what we can get from them which doesn't make for very good friendships!
Considering I have such major trust issues, making friends doesn't come easily for me, but I'm trying to do better now. I just have to learn to trust my instincts and to not ignore the signs if they're there that this isn't a safe person!
Thanks Randy. Yes I think you're right, we learn a lot by instinct. From what you describe Randy, those type of friends fall into one category, but not all friends will behave like that.
We tend to learn a lot through our parents, but instinctively I believe we learn how to behave. Twenty years is the sign of a good friendship and given your circumstances, I believe you will understand more because you've been through hoops having come through addiction.
I learned what true friendship is after high school. My best friend is a true friend to me as I am to her.
That's lovely Lisa. Unfortunately though, some of us are not always aware what the true meaning of friendship is until our friendships are put to the test.
I learned a lot about my friends when my mum was terminally ill, but it's often in those times when things don't work out with our friends that we understand the true meaning of friendship.
Which just goes to show that you really don't much about what is important 'life' in school.
Certainly here in the UK schooling simply seems to be about bagging exams to make the school look good in the league tables and pastoral care is very much secondary to that. It's a shame they don't seem able to find time for the inclination for both.
Yes having been through the system myself I know exactly how schools in the UK work, but school should be about both and I agree with you.
Although exams are important we have to be able to get on with others and to do that we have to be able to communicate. To put too much importance on exams and not enough importance on pastoral care matters, mean we will always struggle in one way or another.
There needs to be some kind of balance, so we become more balanced individuals. I'm not sure how much of that is happening right now.
This is such a true quote. Really all we have in life are our families and our friends. A true friend is one who is there for you in good times and bad.
If they aren't there for you in bad times, then they really aren't as good friends as you thought.
Thanks Maria and I agree. It is often only in difficult times that we find out.
It took a long time for me to learn about friendship and what it really means!
The longest friendship I've had is with the guy who I went for coffee with this morning. We've known each other a good 20 years now and that's only because we met in AA.
My parents never really had friends so they didn't exactly provide good role models for what we needed to know. We learned that people are only useful for what we can get from them which doesn't make for very good friendships!
Considering I have such major trust issues, making friends doesn't come easily for me, but I'm trying to do better now. I just have to learn to trust my instincts and to not ignore the signs if they're there that this isn't a safe person!
Thanks Randy. Yes I think you're right, we learn a lot by instinct. From what you describe Randy, those type of friends fall into one category, but not all friends will behave like that.
We tend to learn a lot through our parents, but instinctively I believe we learn how to behave. Twenty years is the sign of a good friendship and given your circumstances, I believe you will understand more because you've been through hoops having come through addiction.