Truth & anger

Date 30 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
It’s amazing how the truth only ever seems to come out when we’re angry about something. It seems to happen every time. Anger is the catalyst for expressing uncomfortable truths and emotions that are already there, bubbling under the surface. It’s often used as an excuse to say what we…
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We are people first

Date 26 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
We are people first before our wants and needs. Even though I didn’t know about my disability or what my needs were, I mattered. It was important I was able to say what I felt. We must talk about the things that matter. And just because people may have what…
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Taking sides

Date 23 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
I’m not sure it matters whether you’re the child, the parent, or the grandparent. It’s wrong to take one person’s opinion over another. It’s not something families stop to consciously think about, or stop doing. It’s there and is something that still, continues to be part of the family scenario.…
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My lost years

Date 22 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
I’ve been watching a few tear-jerking episodes of Davina McCall and Nicky Campbell’s ‘Long-Lost Family’ series and although I haven’t missed out on knowing my family, not knowing that I had cerebral palsy, makes me feel that part of my own life has been lost. There is a large chunk…
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Dealing with injustice

Date 19 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
We’re human, therefore when anyone says something to hurt us, we may take it personally. We will always set ourselves up to feel pain when we take any injustice personally. That’s not to say it is an injustice, injustice we think is intended for us isn’t always meant to be…
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Moral influences

Date 17 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
Studies have found that children who are most influenced by the people they have the strongest attachments and respect for, are more likely to copy those individuals’ moral beliefs. And whilst I believe that to be true, I also believe other considerations will always come into play. While these foundations…
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Self-righteous

Date 11 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
Someone with self-righteous tendencies will display moral superiority, derived from their beliefs, affiliations or actions which they believe are of greater virtue than those of the average person. As a consequence, they are intolerant of the opinions and behaviour of others. Their ‘holier than thou’ approach to their lives and…
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We've become complacent

Date 10 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
When I first went to see my Neurologist to get a diagnosis for Cerebral Palsy 6 years ago, he mentioned that the birth rate for babies being born with the condition, was still the same as when I was born in the early 60’s. Perhaps that’s because we’re unconsciously becoming…
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Not interested in change

Date 8 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
I believe the reason why many of us don’t change is because we simply don’t want to, we don’t see the need for change, because we’re usually the ones pointing the finger at others, telling them they’re the ones that need to change. It’s often the ones who don’t see…
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How relationships thrive

Date 7 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
Having lived amongst and seen first-hand how dysfunctional relationships work, I have learned over the years how not to do things. These are my recommendations: Learn to value each other and each other’s opinion. Think about what each other brings to the relationship so that neither of you are taken…
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Throwing things back

Date 5 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
Have you ever had what seems like a normal conversation with someone, but whatever is happening in their life at that time, begins to impact the conversation and suddenly their issues become our issues and responsibility? We’re not always sure what we’ve said to bring about the confrontation, but we…
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Legacies matter

Date 4 July 2015
Author Ilana Estelle
When I was growing up, it mattered what people thought of me, but I didn’t think about how that would eventually tie in with my legacy, or what legacy I would leave behind. As we go about our daily lives, do we think about our legacy and what that will…
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