I was once told by a family member that I was lucky because my cerebral palsy saved me, but it wasn't cerebral palsy. It was my ability to dissociate and rationale in every little detail my experiences growing up, everything I needed to understand not to take my life and my experiences personally.
My experiences were never about me. We should learn to understand other people’s behaviour if we are to stay and keep our thoughts around our experiences in check. I know that even though I didn't have emotional stability, being able to understand my experiences played a pivotal role in my wellness.
I believe that we can get through most things as long as we have understanding on our experiences as we experience them. I also believe that through understanding we can have clarity and with clarity we may have closure.
Understanding my experiences as I'm experiencing them will leave me wondering what the big deal is, being so focused in the present.
In fact, there should be no signs of stress if I elevate above my situations in that way.
Thanks Tim. Yes, your response is absolutely spot on.
I call it 'looking at the bigger picture.' Working in this way means you're looking at the bigger picture on those experiences, meaning you'll see everyone and the part they played in those experiences.
Seeing our experiences in this way, will allow us to bring about closure on some or all of our experiences. It is important that when working through the process, we keep an open mind.
Barack Obama often spoke about recognising ourselves in each other. Taking perspective in that way, allows us to consider what it’s like to be in someone else’s situation and to empathise with their experiences.
Barack Obama is right as long as we apply the technique. Sadly, that's not how we generally work. We're usually so self-absorbed we're only thinking of ourselves.