"I suppose you would call me a late bloomer. In my formative years, I merely existed. In a world that has become obsessed with early achievement, taking your time to grow, to decide what you want, I believe is a benefit.

I knew I was struggling in school because my school work had no substance. So years after finishing school, and feeling guilty, I knew I had to find another way to learn. Distance learning could be achievable. I'm not happy because everything I have managed to achieve has come late.

Some of us need more time to develop, to realise our talents and although I was completely in the dark for some years, I wasn't prepared to give up. It took decades, but the nagging thought and question was, would I ever get to the point of knowing what was wrong with me? At the time, I could never have known, or foreseen how things would work out for me.

But being a late bloomer has its advantages. It stops us from potentially making mistakes and allows for us to think about what we want a little more, instead of rushing into things. It worked for me."

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Late Bloomer”

  1. In your case there was good reason why you were a late bloomer and your difficulties in school, in particular must have been all the more noticeable as you had a twin who did not struggle.

    That said you have certainly excelled yourself since, and have and continue to achieve great things, no doubt all part of a bigger picture mapped out for you.

    1. There was a good reason for me, the sad reality my special needs went by the way side, and I continued to struggle and was judged even more, for being a non-achiever.

      If you believe in the bigger picture like I do, you know things happen for a reason and as you say this is the reason. It makes it easier seeing what I have achieved now, but no child should have to struggle in this way.

      I am grateful I had the mental strength. Without that I know I would have given up. There were days when it was a challenge, being challenged in this way.

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