When we understand there isn’t anything that we could have done to change our life, we will find acceptance.

We spend too many years wishing our lives were different, know there wasn’t anything we could have done to change it, but still we continue to wish. To be aware of and understand our circumstances in the whole is to reconcile. We need to break the emotional cycle of abuse we put ourselves through when we think about our lives.

We feel tormented because we want to move on and frustrated because we don’t know how. It’s easy to go over the old tapes in your head, look at the things you could have changed but didn’t, could have said but didn’t. When you look back it’s easy to live with the whole guilt scenario.

Our lives are mapped out for us long before we’re even born. In the spiritual sense, the deck of cards we’re dealt is our deck to have. In the early years, accountability rests with those responsible for us until we become independent, then we become accountable and responsible for ourselves.

If more of us were to understand the concept, we’d let go of our issues sooner. Our thoughts and reactions to past events are an instrumental tool for us to think about change. When our perceptions and reactions change, we will reconcile, and our outcomes will change.

You learn that the way to increase peace of mind and overall health is to let go. Sometimes the guilt we’re left to carry isn’t ours: it’s time to let it go.