We listen to what we want to hear. If what we’re being told doesn’t concur with our own thoughts, beliefs or how we see our lives, we shut off.

We listen to reply, because it would be rude for us not to, but we don’t listen enough for us to think or understand. Instead, we work off our own understanding. If we’re struggling, or it's something we want to hear, another person’s opinion is something we might use, but generally we may ignore what other people say and instead will form our own opinions.

As children, we listen, we learn that way. Reading between the lines and my intuition have allowed me to change and find different outcomes.

I didn’t close my mind, I found a different way to think that helped me learn and understand. It depends on our personality and whether we want to change. Some of us are receptive to other people’s opinions and some of us aren't, but that may also depend on the approach of the person handing out the advice.

If someone is dictatorial, you're going to listen less. On the whole, life becomes easier when you listen, primarily because you're opening your mind to new possibilities, which can help with personal, emotional and spiritual growth.

We should all want to listen attentively, rather than skim people's words, it shows we're interested. It allows us to embrace new thoughts and ideas and helps us learn about change in the process.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Listening attentively”

  1. I agree, listening properly is a real skill, which most of us simply don't have. None of us know so much we can't learn from others and that starts with listening.

    1. Agreed. We all have more to learn and will continue to do so until the day we die. We never stop learning, so we should never stop listening.

      We must become more adept at making sure we're a little more skilful at it.

  2. Language is not always verbal, which means we sometimes listen to only half of what is said.

    There maybe more information on the other side of the tongue.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, our body language talks as does our unconscious mind.

      I believe you're right, there may be more information on the other side of our tongues, as long as we're willing to speak up of course.

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