Loneliness and mental health go together. A state of mind that arises from a lack of fulfillment and contentment. It's not something that can be solved by seeking validation or a connection from others.

Instead of relying on external factors to make us happy, we should focus on personal strengths and personal success.

Loneliness

Loneliness can be difficult to deal with, but it can also be a motivating force for change and growth, not wanting to live in the personal state of 'feeling lonely.' When we feel lonely, our minds may turn to daydreaming as a way to avoid the pain of loneliness. Being lonely can hit anyone, and at any age.

Feeling fulfilled comes from being independent in our thinking and living comfortably in the real world, with who we are. Loneliness can lead to mental health issues and chronic illness.

Loneliness is a state of mind

Loneliness isn't tangible; it's a state of mind. For those who deal with personal isolation, it may be an indicator that your values are not aligned with those commonly upheld by society; although society and family can cut people off.

Guilt, shame, sadness, regret and other negative emotions can contribute to feeling lonely, to feelings of loneliness and mental health. When our minds are consumed by these emotions, it is unlikely we will attract positive experiences. When our minds are clear and open, we may embrace new ideas without having to deal with anxiety, or the lack of self-confidence.

Learn to focus on yourself

It is important not to solely rely on others or external factors. Instead, you should focus on yourself and your own self-development. It is also important to be selective about the people you surround yourself with and the influence they have on you.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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