Having brain damage through cerebral and also having Autism means I struggle with things like sensitivities and humour. Sensitivity means the state, or quality of us reacting to being sensitive to something that’s said, an emotional reaction where we become offended or upset, sensitivity to a drug, or to an external allergen. It is also the state of us being sensitive.
Sensitivities and Emotional Issues
Not everyone will know how to deal with sensitivities positively, but different types of sensitivity can lead to emotional issues. Is being sensitive something we see as a problem for ourselves, or is it something we think other people are, but not us?
Often, sensitivities are based around humour where those who are inclined to use it, find clever ways to point out other people's faults, and causing them embarrassment. It's also a way to offload issues without having to deal with issues. People not on the autistic spectrum find humour easier than those with autism.
Examples of Sensitivity
But there are different examples of sensitivity that may need a different thought process and warrant a different response from us. For example, how a friend treats another friend who is going through a tough time, or where a friend treats us badly and they don’t think they’ve done anything wrong that we were just being sensitive by what they said.
Everyone will have been a victim of someone else's humour. Around humour, it is important it is used in its rightful context.
Yes, I was a very sensitive child forced out into a world that wasn't very sensitive, so I had to deal with a lot of issues that other people didn't understand.
It's why I developed PTSD and have triggers that can send me into a tailspin of depression and despair in the blink of an eye.
I was also brainwashed into believing that I didn't have the right to have boundaries or even defend them, which allowed people to treat me very poorly. It has been a nightmare that I haven't been able to wake up from until now aged 50.
The hardest part now is breaking away from a toxic relationship with someone who seems determined to make me suffer. She doesn't seem to comprehend all that I have done for her.
Thanks Randy. Yes, I had the same. Different circumstances, similar outcomes where we have struggled with sensitivity.
Even with neurological issues, with my blog I've gone from someone who had no confidence to someone who is confident. I now deal with less sensitivities.
The key is for us to be proactive. Being proactive helps us make the relevant changes so that we can move on from our past, create a new present and future for ourselves.
As they say, 'actions speak louder than words.' It's not enough for us to talk about it, we must learn to act on what we say.