If like me, you believe life is part of a bigger plan, then my family were chosen, and everything was pre-determined before I was born.
It was a life I needed to question, there was every reason to question. Living with a disability I didn't know I had left me with years of mental and emotional struggles and questions that remained unanswered.
The bigger plan for me worked out, but our experiences are our experiences to have and attached to those can be trauma, anger, irritability, anguish and trust issues. Although our experiences never really go, you can build on your life positively, to place those appropriately.
I could never have imagined back then, a diagnosis at age 46 would lead to opportunities in writing, for me to become an author and writer.
The 'universe' clearly had bigger plans.
Aside from different experiences, you and I have much in common; we both trust the bigger plan and we've never wasted a single moment contemplating failure.
You trained yourself to be an author and writer before you even put a pen in your hand.
You should be comforted that your painful journey was always part of a bigger plan and if anything had changed to any of the players in that plan along the way, then you would not be in the place you are now in, doing what you do.
The universe had big plans for you and you rose to the challenge. You trusted it and it also provided the solution.
Thank you. Yes, I am comforted my life worked out for me and that is has brought be to this place and I am able to do what I do with my writing.
You are right, but it doesn't make what you go through any less traumatic, or palatable, even with an understanding. That all depends on how much trauma you have and how much you're put through.
Thanks Tim. Yes we do, although in my case I was too wrapped up in wanting to know what was wrong with me, I never thought about failure.
I don't think it was a conscious or unconscious decision. I was just wrapped up in my own thoughts most of the time, truthfully it wasn't on the radar.
Hi Ilana,
Greetings from across the pond! I too am a firm believer in the theory that my life was planned for me, exactly as it turned out, with all the trials and traumatic experiences not withstanding from before I was born.
It is only after going through traumatic events and us coming out the other side do we understand that our lives are a part of a bigger plan.
I'm finishing my 60th year (with Cerebral Palsy) on earth and I am exactly where I should be. I was told once when going through a really hard time in my life that 'what does not kill you will only make you stronger.'
It doesn't minimized trauma and pain, but it gives you a perspective.
Hi Vincent from the other side of the pond! and welcome to the site. I am so pleased you have got in touch with me.
I am pleased you are where you should be and agree with you when you say, being where we are supposed to be, doesn't minimise trauma and pain, but it gives us perspective, I believe it also gives others perspective too on our situations.
Before I found out about Cerebral Palsy at the age of 46, I wasn't in a position to think about the bigger picture. When you're struggling to understand yourself and your disability, it's the last thing you think of, but so much has happened since then.
Through my blog I have been able to piece my experiences together, through my writing, I have come to understand and see the bigger picture.