Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
Food for thought: "I never write to disappear and escape. The truth is exactly the opposite. Most people strike me as escaping and disappearing in one way or another - into their jobs, their daily routines, their delusions about ...
Something inspirational: “Anyone can learn to fight. Hardly anyone learns to think.” TAMSYN MUIR, Gideon the Ninth Muir's quote reminds us that fighting is not just about physical strength; it can mean arguing, resisting ...
Food for thought: “All that you touch You Change. All that you Change Changes you.” OCTAVIA E. BUTLER, Parable of the Sower This quote reminds us that everything we do has an impact, and every experience changes ...
I once read about a mother who who managed to forgive his perpetrator, when she lost her son to violence; but no one understood that.
There is an element of truth in what you say of course, but not to forgive just eats away at our soul and that inevitably makes us ill. I have seen that happen. I believe it helps if we can find it in our hearts to forgive, but that doesn't mean we forget.
I also think that where we have understanding, we have the choice to forgive, but that if we don't want to forgive we can still be okay with our decision not to, because we've then come to the decision as to why we've chosen not to forgive.
I think you're right, we are more free when we forgive, but I believe we have to work through the process before we get to that stage. It's harder to forgive when we fail to see or understand the circumstances.
I find that I am more able to forgive when I understand someone's reasoning, as long as there is no malicious intent involved. If we wittingly go out of our way to do something because it serves our purpose more than it helps the other person, then it's harder to forgive.
But I find I can do both. I can understand, not necessarily forgive, but find peace in my understanding and I'm okay with that.
If forgiving brings peace then that's a good thing, but to me some things are too evil for forgiveness.
I once read about a mother who who managed to forgive his perpetrator, when she lost her son to violence; but no one understood that.
There is an element of truth in what you say of course, but not to forgive just eats away at our soul and that inevitably makes us ill. I have seen that happen. I believe it helps if we can find it in our hearts to forgive, but that doesn't mean we forget.
I also think that where we have understanding, we have the choice to forgive, but that if we don't want to forgive we can still be okay with our decision not to, because we've then come to the decision as to why we've chosen not to forgive.
I forgive people because I want to be free, but not before I send a message of how rich I am with my peace of mind. Karma will take care of the rest.
I think you're right, we are more free when we forgive, but I believe we have to work through the process before we get to that stage. It's harder to forgive when we fail to see or understand the circumstances.
I find that I am more able to forgive when I understand someone's reasoning, as long as there is no malicious intent involved. If we wittingly go out of our way to do something because it serves our purpose more than it helps the other person, then it's harder to forgive.
But I find I can do both. I can understand, not necessarily forgive, but find peace in my understanding and I'm okay with that.