Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
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Thanks Tim. I agree with you. Yes we can be assured people will remember an insult! They're not easy to forget particularly if the insult is directed towards us.
However good we are at measuring our words and being careful, I still think it's easy to get caught out. Even if we think what we've said is harmless the other person may not think so.
It's down to our perceptions and our perceptions will always differ from person to person.
People do tend to focus on things that are said that are less than complimentary. It's very hard to be positive at times when there are so many negative people in the world.
I'm just trying to learn how to focus on the difference so that I can stay in a positive frame of mind more often!
This is very true. Unfortunately it's often impossible to put the genie back in the bottle, once we've let it out.
It's a shame as we sometimes say things we genuinely wish we hadn't and it is hard enough to make amends.
I knew someone just like Tim's friend and no matter what I said he always looked behind my words in an attempt to throw something back at me, at a later date.
I agree. It's virtually impossible! I'm not sure whether we ever can.
There will always be people like Tim's friend and the person you knew who will analyse and re-analyse what we say; sometimes to catch us out, but often because of their own insecurities.
I'm not sure anyone who feels good about themselves would feel the need. We tend to look for fault with others, because we have fault with ourselves.
This is so true! Why do we remember the bad over the good? I think the bad things make a deeper impression on us.
Thanks Lisa. Yes I agree the bad things do make a deeper impression on us; like an imprint etched in our memories.
I'm sure most people will remember an insult wherever it's placed in a conversation.
I have a friend who will analyze every word used in a conversation and somehow find a way to be insulted; I've learned to measure my words carefully.
Thanks Tim. I agree with you. Yes we can be assured people will remember an insult! They're not easy to forget particularly if the insult is directed towards us.
However good we are at measuring our words and being careful, I still think it's easy to get caught out. Even if we think what we've said is harmless the other person may not think so.
It's down to our perceptions and our perceptions will always differ from person to person.
People do tend to focus on things that are said that are less than complimentary. It's very hard to be positive at times when there are so many negative people in the world.
I'm just trying to learn how to focus on the difference so that I can stay in a positive frame of mind more often!
Thanks Randy. I agree with you. The fact that you recognise this Randy tells me that you're more positive than you realise.
It's often not easy to be positive around people who are less than complimentary.
This is very true. Unfortunately it's often impossible to put the genie back in the bottle, once we've let it out.
It's a shame as we sometimes say things we genuinely wish we hadn't and it is hard enough to make amends.
I knew someone just like Tim's friend and no matter what I said he always looked behind my words in an attempt to throw something back at me, at a later date.
I agree. It's virtually impossible! I'm not sure whether we ever can.
There will always be people like Tim's friend and the person you knew who will analyse and re-analyse what we say; sometimes to catch us out, but often because of their own insecurities.
I'm not sure anyone who feels good about themselves would feel the need. We tend to look for fault with others, because we have fault with ourselves.