Abandonment is often described as "the state of being left helpless and without protection." It's a journey often marked by confusion and isolation. The experience of abandonment isn’t unique – it can touch anyone, in any situation, and at any time – leaving that person to face challenges through being ignored and having to confront their challenges on their own.

Whether it stems from emotional or mental neglect, physical absence or societal indifference, abandonment weaves a common thread of vulnerability. It’s a harsh reality for me, and for many, one that forces individuals to grapple with challenges they may not always be prepared to handle. This was especially true for me, as a vulnerable child with special needs.

Abandonment is 'profound'

Abandonment can be a deeply personal, profound and often painful experience that leaves lasting emotional scars. Abandonment can bring about a profound sense of worthlessness and loss. It takes many forms, from emotional withdrawal to physical absence, leaving that person feeling isolated. It can take years to heal, it is important to look for the understanding.

Abandonment and Emotional Distance

Emotional distance can often be just as devastating as a physical departure, as it erodes trust, leaving those abandoned to question why. Abandonment has nothing to do with the person experiencing abandonment.

Its effects are 'long-lasting'

The effects of abandonment are long-lasting. Abandonment can carry feelings of fear, and anxiety – anxiety that if continued carry into future relationships. It's often difficult to shake off. Abandonment can also be a struggle, a struggle to trust others. It may also leave those abandoned to seek false validation to avoid the pain.

Conclusion

Ultimately, abandonment if allowed to continue over the years, shapes a person's identity, influencing how they view themselves and the world around them, often leaving behind emotional scars that can take time to heal. It is important to continue to keep working on yourself.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

Most people who read this blog

went on to read these blogs next
Date 26 September 2026
Author Ilana Estelle

Hidden Trauma: How It Shapes How We Feel, Cope and Connect

When coping strategies that once protected us begin to shape everyday life Trauma is not always obvious. It wasn't for me. Trauma can exist quietly beneath the surface. When it doesn’t fit the obvious picture of trauma ...
Read more
Date 22 September 2026
Author Ilana Estelle

When Change Meets Reality

The difficult bit comes after the promises Politics never stops meeting its own headlines. A new leader arrives. A new government begins. A new set of ideas is introduced. And with that comes something very human: hope ...
Read more
Date 20 September 2026
Author Ilana Estelle

The UK After Brexit: A Generation Asking What Comes Next

A look at the choices made and the questions that remain If it’s out there, you’ll find me writing about it. Brexit affected everyone – whether politicians are still debating it, moving on from it, or choosing not to revisit the difficult questions ...
Read more
1 2 3 … 528

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Subscribe to receive regular updates

Enter your details below to be the first to receive updates on new articles on my blog.