Something inspirational:

“The only way to end grief was to go through it.”

HOLLY BLACK, The Darkest Part of the Forest

I don't always add a thought to quotes, particularly if they're self-explanatory, but if something were to catch my eye, or it sits with me, or I feel I should further elaborate, I often do.

I hope this helps others through their 'loss.'

"Grief is not a path we choose, but one we find ourselves on – for many often unprepared. In my own journey, I know grief isn't something for me to sidestep or hurry through. It's a process that demands my presence, my patience, and my willingness to feel my experiences.

I need to face my loss, acknowledge it, and allow myself to sit with it... so that I can heal.​ A counsellor once said I’ve never known my life without trauma, and she was right. Losing my twin has added another layer to that trauma.

Each step through her loss is teaching me resilience. It's showing me the strength in vulnerability and the importance of being kind to myself and going at my own pace. By embracing the process, I am discovering a deeper understanding of myself and a renewed appreciation for the moments of quiet that have followed her death."​

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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