Speaking out

Date 10 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
A few weeks ago I was in a position where I felt I needed to say something to someone, but felt irritated when it didn’t quite work out. Is it wrong for us to speak out if we’re genuinely not happy with a situation and we want things to change?…
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Being in control

Date 9 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
I have learned how to deal with problems the hard way. It took me years. We all deal with problems differently, but taking control is a priority for all of us if we are to have hope of achieving the best outcome. Why control is important? As a child I…
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Extending our values

Date 8 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Sowing a seed with children in their formative years, means they will have the opportunity to reap the benefits later on. There are no guarantees, it’s the nature of raising children; but it also depends on whether our children agree with our values. My own spiritual values have taught me…
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Settling for less

Date 6 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Having cerebral palsy meant that I would always get to see and understand flaws and wouldn’t so much need to settle on perfection. I am comfortable with its concept. When things aren’t perfect they’re even more special. That when we’re chasing perfection we’re telling ourselves everything needs to be perfect,…
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The small things

Date 5 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
For children, the small things matter. It’s easy to look back on our parents’ lives, to see how they could have changed things to make their family life more complete. It’s the children who lose out when parents choose to live their lives in ways that benefit them, but don’t…
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Grievances

Date 3 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Grievances are something we hold on to, don’t do anything about them until we get to boiling point, then we let rip! It’s something I’ve experienced twice in my life, but not something I’ve handed out. I tend to sort out my problems before it gets to that stage where…
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Time to take stock

Date 2 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
It’s not always losing a parent that brings about problems with inner peace. It’s often there, we just don’t realise it. We should have inner peace long before we lose a parent. It can make losing a parent even more difficult, because we’re not settled within ourselves. When I lost…
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Finding peace

Date 1 April 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
It’s coming up to a month since my father passed and my life has gone from being very stressful to me having more peace around me. The last 6 years life has been so pressured. It’s nice not to feel pressured any more. Although I lost ...
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Generations of behaviour

Date 30 March 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Family behaviour has a history of repeating itself with future generations. Those behaviour patterns passed through the generations will dictate how we communicate with other family members and how we get to live our lives. Behaviour patterns Those behaviour patterns determine our opinions, our beliefs and our decisions. They will…
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Social class

Date 29 March 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
It’s become standard practice to put barriers up to protect ourselves. That way we don’t have to communicate our thoughts to anyone. Behaviour is learned It’s the way we’re made, right? Unfortunately not, it’s what we’ve learned. People don’t always shy away from other people because they feel resentment towards…
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From the heart

Date 27 March 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
It doesn’t matter how much we talk from the heart, sometimes the people we’re trying to talk to, don’t want to hear what we need to say. It’s only in those moments that we may begin to realise that we’re left with no alternative but to walk away. Wouldn’t life…
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Unconscious Issues

Date 26 March 2013
Author Ilana Estelle
Letting go of someone or something doesn’t mean we’ve failed. It means we’re no longer willing to put up with a situation or issue we’re not happy with. Unfortunately, when anyone deals with someone with a terminal illness, emotionally it may often flag other issues, in other areas that they…
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