Unconscious reckoning

Date 25 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
Our unconscious thoughts play their part in our conscious every day conversations. For example, resentment provoked by angry conflicts between two people, will automatically encapsulate into feelings of enmity that go back further than the presenting disagreement. The strong reaction of resentment almost always never appears to be warranted by…
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Emotions & disability

Date 22 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
A disability is difficult for the child with the disability. Not only is a disability difficult for the child, but it can be difficult for the family dealing with a sibling or child that is disabled. I’m not sure how many people consciously stop to think about that concept. Others…
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What is normal?

Date 19 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
I’ve asked myself this question many times before. What is normal? What one person perceives as being normal, another person won’t. My definition of normal is something that’s usual or typical or something expected that doesn’t deviate from the norm. Normal seems to be based around behaviour. When it comes…
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Seeking parents' approval

Date 14 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
Unfortunately, when we’re not told we’re loved, or we’re not told that our parents are proud of us, we will spend a lifetime trying to seek their approval; that we’re worthy of their love and support. We shouldn't have to seek our parents’ approval. The fact that a parent can…
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Draw a line

Date 10 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
There are always different meanings on different words and phrases that bring about a different thought process from us. I came across a phrase the other day that resonated with me greatly. It’s a phrase that changed my thinking. When we ‘draw a line in the sand’ we put a…
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Irritable behaviour

Date 8 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
As a child, I was never consciously aware, or even understood why when someone said something to me it was like a time-bomb going off. I was irritable at everyone. I can’t remember what exactly irritated me, but being blamed for things that I know clearly weren’t my fault, acted…
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Gratification

Date 7 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
Unfortunately, gratification and self-gratification have become part of our lives. We do things but expect something back in return. This is the way their lives roll and they make no excuses about it. Others will genuinely do things, not for personal gain but because they have empathy and want to…
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Living in the shadow

Date 5 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
When parents fail to make decisions individually for their children, their children will go through their lives living in the shadow of their siblings. Shadowing a sibling doesn’t happen through choice. It usually comes through a parents’ inability to let their children live independent lives. It’s an easy way for…
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An understanding

Date 4 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
It’s taken me a long time to understand my parents, the bigger picture, the role they played, why my life would never be any different and why I came to struggle. I remember a conversation I’d had with someone years ago about parents and that just because we become parents,…
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My Cerebral Palsy

Date 2 October 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
It was in my 40s that I was able to start piecing some of my cerebral palsy together. My parents were reluctant to talk about it, so I am having to piece everything together myself. It’s not ideal, but it’s something. It would take years and my mother’s terminal illness…
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Another universal thought

Date 29 September 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
‘We seem to be heading in the right direction, we’re doing the right things but circumstances are still conspiring against us.’ I believe that whilst we’re in contact with others who don’t conform to the rules of the universe, the universe will always conspire to ensure those people learn from…
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The universe conspires

Date 28 September 2014
Author Ilana Estelle
The universe will always conspire to work with us on the things we do that are right. If we do and say the right things, those things should work out. When we do things for our own gain because we’re greedy or we think we’re entitled, the universe will have…
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